When we think of marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is having a lasting relationship. Marriage is a commitment of two people to one another and to each others family, bonded by holy matrimony. When a couple plans to marry, they think of raising a family together, dedicating their life to each other. Thats the circle of life–our natural instinct to live and produce children and have those children demonstrate your own good morals. I have never been married; but I dont understand why when two people get married and vow to be together for richer and poorer, better or worse, decide to just forget about that commitment. A marriage should be the most important decision a person makes in his or her life.
A husband and wife do not appear to be a choice that means forever anymore. When a person plans to marry, it should be when they are ready to start a family and begin acting responsibly. All marriages have their ups and downs, and we are prone to argue; but we need to let love conquer hate, not the other way around. The divorce rate is too high and it affects everybody. There should be no reason for a person to give up their marriage for selfish reasons. Arguments between husband and wife occur, of course; but when something is wrong, it should be worked-out peacefully.The meaning of a divorce is betrayal; its unfair and the cruelest situation to put your loved one through. For instance, if a man wants to divorce his wife after ten years, what is the wife left to do since she only knows how to be faithful to him? The situation for her is a catastrophe and that is morally wrong. We should really learn really well who the person is that we want to marry before we end up wanting to betray someone or vice versa.
Divorce affects the state of mind of those involved, whether consciously or sub-consciously. A couple seems better off working out their problems rather than getting a divorce in the long run. I also believe that this becomes like an addiction or a bad habit– the person remarries over and over again. This seems more than just bad luckit is a psychological problem. It results from the way they saw their own parents in their upbringing. So, the couple that is getting divorced puts their child in the situation to learn and adopt the same bad habit. It is for the children that I have the most concern, above all. The family is the strongest force behind being a successful individual. A child must learn how to treat others by watching his/her parents, and if they see their parents giving up, they will give up on their own relationships more easily.
Im not saying single parenting will raise damaged children, but it is not the ideal situation to raise a child in. Its not worth a childs future for a husband and wife not to get along anymore. I want to just express my point that marriage should be death til you partregardless of how inconvienient or difficult for those involved it might be. If you loved someone enough to marry him/her, you must love them enough to try to remedy any psychological or emotional problems you might have within the relationship. If not for you, you should do it for your children.
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