Domestic Violence Statistics
As stated by Domestic Violence Statistics, nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup (n.d., para. 5). According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, domestic violence is the act of inflicting physical injury by one family or household member on another. Domestic violence is one of the leading causes of injuries to women. Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any point in their life.
In 2010, Katy Perry, an American singer, songwriter, and actress, wrote one of the most beautiful songs, both lyrically and musically. The song Pearl describes a young woman who has degraded herself because of the man she is with. In the song, Ms. Perry uses a clever metaphor to compare a woman to a shell and a pearl; the young woman has turned herself into a shell when she “used to be a pearl.” Although feminism has come so far, domestic violence, as explained in the song Pearl, demotes self-respect, makes women to be afraid to be themselves, and silences their voice because women still feel the need to impress other people.
Self-respect is a major problem for women, especially teenage girls. A lot of teenage girls do not have self-respect; they rely on others to tell them who to be. Buddha once said, “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” (as cited in Good Reads, n.d., para. 2). Teenage girls constantly change their image, keeping up with the always-changing styles and fashion statements. Relying on other people to change the way you dress and act is a bad influence on young girls’ self-respect. Unfortunately, I’ve experienced self-respect problems first-hand. I was made fun of all throughout middle school and high school. All those people cut into my self-esteem deeper and deeper until they reached my core, my reason for being alive. They cut into that reason so far that it nearly died, I nearly died. I was suicidal for three years because of this. It takes a lot for self-respect problems to go away, but it only takes an instant for them to appear. In the song, there are a few lines that Katy sings referring to herself rather than the other woman, “Cause I used to be a shell, / yeah I let him rule my world. / But I woke up and grew strong, / and I can still go on. / And no one can take my pearl” (lines 37-42).